To my dear twenty-somethings,
It’s okay. Everything will be alright. I know, I am going through it too.
We have all read the articles online “things you should be doing in your twenties” or “things you should do before you graduate”, and as helpful as the author may want to seem,they only write to their audience who can actually achieve those things. Don’t ask me how many posts I have come across online where I, an almost twenty one year old have been told to get out and travel and see the world, or follow your dreams and to do a million other things that I cannot do. And this leaves me feeling bad about myself and bad about my life. Until I realize that an online article shouldn’t dictate my life or tell me how I have to live it.
When we reach our early twenties our life changes. We graduate, we get our first proper job, some of us even get married and start having families of our own. We have student loans to pay back, we have bills to pay, we have taxes and a whole lot of financial work to take care off. We are faced with every single “adult” responsibility that we can ever imagine. And to top it off, we are all on our own. No mum and dad to shelter us and protect us from this big bad world that we live in (unless you are one of the lucky ones who’s parents still pamper you). And at times all of this may seem a little overwhelming and scary. You think you won’t be able to survive but trust me, you will.
You may have made a plan that seemed absolutely perfect for you at the time, perhaps it was the “dream” job you wanted or maybe it involved moving to another city. And just when you think everything is going to be great, every piece falling into place something comes up and it all shatters into a million heart breaking pieces. Its okay. Maybe it all fell apart because this wasn’t the way it was supposed to happen. We cannot see the whole picture now but very soon we will see whatever happens to us happens for the best. There is no point in regrets, in feeling sorry for yourself over missed opportunities because you know what? Opportunities keep on knocking and keep on coming your way.
Times will get difficult, people will say things, you will get a ton of “advice” from well to do family members. You will look at other people, other twenty somethings who seem to have it all. There will be times when you feel that there isn’t any point in going on. Please don’t let these thoughts get to you. Don’t let the present disappointments dictate your future. Don’t make rash decisions. And remain happy. You are not alone. Trust me, everybody is going through the bad times. And the good news is, it is not going to last. A year from now you will look back and laugh and be thankful for the experiences you had because that is what shaped you.